I have found a place where I can shoot the breeze about IM, Newsnight Review and psychobable and not bore everyone sh1tless. well hopefully not.

There is a physiological basis to this behaviour. In 1995 researchers at Palma University in Italy, discovered a type of brain cell in monkeys which are now called mirror neurons.
These cells are responsible for our skill in creating rapport. In monkeys and primates ( and that includes humans ) these cells cause us to “copy” the physical actions of others and will also over time cause you to “copy” or adjust the accent of others around you.

This is in part the reason for our “success” as a species. Cooperation is, in fact, hard wired into the human brain.

The interesting question is this.
If people want to be successful why do they choose to hang out with people who do not display the thoughts and actions that they want and need to create the success they seek?

The answer to this is complex and also simple. I’ll save the answer for another post.
It’s one of the things that NLP trainers do. We create curiosity which increases attention. That’s why all of the best dramas end on a cliff hanger.

Michael

PS Who really shot JR ?

When I looking what I thinking one year ago and what is now. It’s a two big difference persons.

I wish sometimes speaking live, with them and actually with 30dc team as well as other internet marketers.

Vitaly

Excellent post! I was recently thinking about this topic myself from a different angle Except from the other perspective, not believing what others say about me, but believing my own opinion of someone else, and how my brain constantly works to support that opinion. I have always thought of my mom as an irresponsible person, and have become the “adult” in the relationship with her. She’s just one of those types that is often late, always getting lost, etc. I have a lot of “evidence” to support this opinion, and I could literally bring to memory dozens if not hundreds of examples that support my opinion that my mom is irresponsible.It’s like my brain is a filing system-I have memories all sorted and filed under “mom is irresponsible” When I was thinking about how my brain works, how it sorts through these items and categoriizes them, I came to the horrifying realization that my mother actually provides me with frequent examples of her being “responsible” but since those don’t fit into my category of who she is, my brain actually disregards those examples. So each time my mom does something that supports my opinion of her, my brain files that away as “evidence” while each time she does something that doesn’t support my opinion of her, my brain throws that away since there is no file for “my mom being a responsible person.” I was really horrified when I realized that by continuing this pattern of thinking, I am actually contributing to it being “true” from both her perspective and mine. Even though I have become aware of this, it is such an established pattern that is hard to break. I love the idea of using a phrase to remind myself to be aware. It’s interesting to look at all my own perceptions of myself, and reconsider who I want to be, how I want to be. It’s incredibly liberating when you realize you can determine your own truth. Thanks GuruBob!

I believe — to a large degree — it is how we choose to see it.

I’m echoing Brian a bit there, I guess, and Willie the Shake, too… what good company here at your pad!

I just wanted to take a moment to let you know I enjoy your thoughts, GuruBob…

I have enjoyed your take of things from ever since I first heard of you – back when your name started to show up in the 30DC.

You’ve always had a better way of explaining things than others, and your videos really make the Thirty Day Challenge so much greater. They are well detailed, just packed full of USABLE information – surpassing the content provided by the somewhat wordy Ed, and far easier to understand and implement than Dan’s stuff.

Don’t get me wrong, your a brilliant team, but you really ‘make’ the whole thing for me – and I was so glad to hear you have your own blog.

Thank you, truly.

When you say,
“I am of the belief that there is no such thing as an absolute truth; I believe that truth is subjective…it often depends on the view point of the observer that is YOU.”,
I appreciate what you are saying but I feel you are mixing apples and oranges.

There are absolute truths that are verifiable.
Maybe sunshine is a truth. That’s the apple.
I don’t think it’s just my perception that makes the sun exist.

The orange is subjective truth.
What people say about you or things that happen to you is subjective to the extent that you believe it and act on it and then it becomes true to you.
I am a good ball player, for example.
It may be true or it may not be true, but it will become true if you accept it.

Cultures also have certain beliefs that may or may not be based on truth.
Getting a job at the factory, for example.
Their perception/belief is that factory jobs are a good thing.
Is that a truth? No.
It may be good for some but not for others.

I agree that we should always challenge our beliefs, especially those imposed by others.

Also, I’m not sure that meaning can always be derived from things that happen to us.
I mean, stuff happens.
We can however, try to learn some lesson from the issues of life.

The only way to truly change is to change what we think.

“There is nothing neither good nor bad, but thinking makes it so.” – Shakespeare

I would recommend “The Six Pillars Of Self Esteem” by Nathaniel Branden. If anyone reading this comment thinks it is about touchy feely stuff…. well that is your impression but I can tell you it will open your mind to what this whole post is really about. IE… not about touchy feely stuff but about a logical no kidding way of dealing with life…. that you don’t learn in school or on the street…. Just my 2cents… thanks GuruBob